Amongst other things, I sometimes support clients and groups
in the guise of a facilitator – which has led to my hosting a monthly meetup
call of similar people to share stories and encouragements, and also having been part
of the internationally acclaimed IAF England and Wales hybrid conference
earlier this year.
But more recently, it led to a group of facilitators coming
together to risk of being heretical and incurring divine retributions by openly
talking about Faith – how our approaches to working with clients who are rooted
in it may differ from those that don’t; if we profess a personal faith as
facilitators, how this impacts on our work; and generally trying to avoid being
blasphemous…https://www.meetup.com/iaf-facilitators-and-friends/events/289026521/
Don’t mention God?
A quick round of ‘hello, how do you do?’s identified that most
people in this conversation professed a Christian faith of some type – although
many are actively seeking ways to ‘deconstruct’ this in crossing traditional
boundaries of denominations and traditions, to explore how their faith remains
relevant and pertinent to the issues we face today as individuals and society.
This realisation that we were then having a conversation in
something of an ‘echo chamber’ in not having a wider diversity of beliefs and
non-beliefs gave us pause to wonder if this had happened because we’d
self-selected ourselves on the basis of the session being explicitly around
this theme? And in turn, that led to our realisation that in being part of a
wider body of facilitators, we don’t actually know how far faith is or isn’t a
part of our shared cultural identity within this community of practice – and
that we never ask each other about this: perhaps because it’s a legally
protected characteristic, and so we fear accidentally falling foul of the law?
Faith vs. Secular
In further establishing that we’d all had experiences of
facilitating groups of people who shared an identity rooted in faith, and well
as those that didn’t, we mulled over what different this makes (if any?)
through a sharing of some of our experiences and stories together (all of which
were safely anonymised and sanitised):
- Faith groups will have values that are more visible and influencing on their decision making and how they reflect – such groups can therefore sometimes expect that their facilitator “sings from same hymn sheet” in having enough commonality with those values to offer them an assurance over how the facilitation process will be managed and delivered. But this risks facilitation losing its neutrality (part of the defining nature of the process).
- People draw on faith for personal security, and informing their identity in ways that go beyond and further than a person would view their personal relationships with their (paid) jobs – and as facilitation should push people into spaces that they may not always be comfortable in, there needs to more time spent in careful planning to ensure sufficient psychological safety has been created for the group.
- The ‘maturity’ or extent to which a faith community has engaged with wider cultural norms and practices in society around them were felt to be a key factor in how facilitation processes could be best designed with them – for example, if people feel their theology is being threatened, they can quickly withdraw and disengage from a process. But if they have already been part of conversation and debate that has allowed them to critically reflect on their beliefs, creeds, and dogmas, then they will be more able to constructively engage with a more open facilitation process.
Godly Gaffes
In following the adage “to err is human, to forgive Divine”,
we also sought to explore what learning we might draw out from where we’d
worked with faith groups and things hadn’t concluded with them in the way we
had anticipated at the outset…
- Having a starting point in a process of trying to create the perfect (church) community was felt to be an ‘own goal’ with hindsight: in this story it was only as the agreed process proceed and started to become unstuck in places was it realised that the point of a church isn’t to be perfect: it should always allow space and opportunities for growth (a core tenant of all beliefs).
- Having an assumption that the outcome of a process will be able to be adopted and acted on was another ‘gaffe’ shared –facilitation often crates new outcomes that existing systems may not exist to accommodate. This can be challenging enough for secular groups, but as faith communities can often be culturally steeped in maintaining and celebrating traditional practices, this makes introducing and managing change more difficult for them.
Helpful hints for facilitators
In trying to draw some points of learning from these stories
that we might use as ‘initial hints and tips’ that we might share with a fellow
facilitator who is thinking about/starting to work with a faith community, 2
key insights were agreed:
- think of everyone in a faith community as a volunteer (even if they’re paid) - the culture of faith means their organisations will be closer in feel to community groups and smaller charities than formal organisations.
- be prepared to practice grace in terms of patience and acceptance: although issues that arise when working with faith groups are usually similar to those with secular groups, they are more explicit and manifest to greater degree owing to faith being a bigger part of people’s personal identity than their job is.
Faithful facilitators
Finally, we turned inwards to ourselves as facilitators to
begin to consider the influence that any faith we profess might/should have in
informing how we work.
This identified that for some, we saw our work as our ‘calling’,
whilst others saw their role as such in a more pragmatic way to work – a means
to a (greater) end. Understandably, depending on which position you hold, your
response to the question of “would you ever turn work down because of your
beliefs” drew contrasting responses that might be expected.
Those for whom work is more than just a job were more
explicit and open about how this informs their choice over clients they choose
to work with. But briefly exploring this from faith-based perspectives and the scriptures
of different beliefs, highlighted various examples of where a person of
faith deliberately chose to put themselves, and work, in both places and with
people that their wider community of faith might not otherwise feel comfortable
with nor appropriate.
Heading to the promised land
In seeking to draw conclusions from the conversations, it
was apparent that we’d probably created more questions than we’d been able to
reach a consensus in answering. But this in turn prompted some in the call to
want to keep exploring these ideas and themes further – so they’re now off finding
times to convene to start to explore and design what/when that might look like.
If you want to remain updated as to when more details about it are confirmed,
please contact me and I’ll start a list….
